Public Memoir Roundtables

April Roundtable Discussion–Free to All

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My Twelve Year Odyssey to Turn life into Memoir

Thursday April 7, 2016

4 PM PDT   5 PM MDT 6 PM CDT 7 PM EDT

 

Our guest this month is Jerry Waxler, my colleague and friend since I began the National Association of Memoir Writers. Jerry is also on our advisory board, and we have had many conversations about his memoir journey, mine, and the issues that all memoir writers have to solve as they finish their book and move toward publication.

Jerry has taught several classes here at NAMW, and is a passionate advocate for memoir writers. Now that his book is done—yay—we thought it would benefit memoir writers who struggle with the same challenges as Jerry did to hear about how he managed to confront his memory, moments of shame and embarrassment, the need for privacy, and the long writing and editing process.

Jerry’s odyssey to write his memoir began in 2004, when he decided he would try to make sense of the years between 1965 and 1975. At first, writing the story seemed impossible. He was not a story writer and he could barely remember those times when hippie dreams almost unraveled his sanity. Twelve years later, in 2016, he published, Thinking My Way to the End of the World. In this roundtable we’ll accompany Jerry through his journey, as he proceeded from the initial motivation, to gathering anecdotes, creating scenes, organizing, revising, polishing, self-doubts, and finally publishing the memoir.

You will learn:

  • How to discover and uncover your most important memories
  • How to sort through the many moments of your life to find a structure for your memoir
  • The ways that your writing community can help you find your way
  • How viewing writing your memoir as a journey can give you courage to keep going
  • What you need to know about revision and editing
  • How to easily publish the book YOU want to write

Jerry Waxler, M.S. writes, speaks, and teaches about how to awaken human potential through writing. Jerry’s blog includes four hundred essays that form the basis for his book Memoir Revolution which champions the social trend to turn life into Story. His degree and experience in Counseling Psychology provide the background for his self-help guide, How to Become a Heroic Writer, about overcoming the mental challenges of being a writer. His own coming-of-age memoir Thinking My Way to the End of the World is about his attempt to grow up into adulthood during the 60s. For more information see www.jerrywaxler.com.

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March Roundtable Discussion–Free to All

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Writing In the Voice of My Mother

Jo Ivester

Thursday March 3, 2016

4 pm PST   5 pm MST   6 pm CST   7 pm EST

Ivester Facebook PhotoWe are so pleased to welcome Jo Ivester, the author of The Outskirts of Hope: A Memoir of the 1960s Deep South to our Roundtable podcast. Read her summary below about working with her mother to write a story about her mother’s life. Ultimately Jo wrote from the point of view of her mother. We get many questions about this at NAMW, and want to explore the issues that arise.

They include:

Can I write in the POV of someone else and call it a memoir?

What makes the reader engage in a story like that?

Join us for a great discussion about the narrative voice, choices you can make, and how to might write from the point of view of someone else.

 

From Jo:

Outskirts CoverIn 1967, when I was 10 years old, my father joined the War on Poverty. He moved our family from Boston to a small, all-black town in the Mississippi Delta, where he started a clinic, my mother taught at the local high school, and I was the only white student at my junior high. Thirty-five years later, my mother wrote about those days, along with stories from her whole life.

For five years, we worked together to massage her early writings into a cohesive journal, spanning much of the 20th century. After distributing copies of that journal to family and friends, we circulated it to connections in the publishing industry and were told that the story of our time in Mississippi was the only publishable part. My mother, disappointed, gave up, but that was just the start for me. I took the feedback in stride and went on to write “Outskirts,” relying on both my mother’s journal and my own childhood memories.

 

What Members Will Gain:

  • An appreciation of the importance of writing daily, even when there is no book in sight
  • An understanding of how the memoir-writing process can draw family members closer together
  • A recognition of the challenges of writing in someone else’s voice, along with the rewards of doing so
  • Some pointers about re-connecting with people from one’s past
  • The courage to be honest and authentic in writing about one’s experiences
  • How to decide about using another person’s point of view

 

Bio:

Jo Ivester spent two years of her childhood living in a trailer in Mound Bayou, where she was the only white student at her junior high. She finished high school in Florida before attending Reed, MIT, and Stanford in preparation for a career in  transportation and manufacturing. Following the birth of her fourth child, she began teaching, first as a substitute math teacher and then as an adjunct professor at St. Edward’s University. She and her husband teach each January at MIT and travel extensively, splitting their time between Texas and Colorado. For more information, please visit www.joivester.com.

 

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February Roundtable Discussion

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Writing in Two Languages—Translating Your Story into a Memoir

Lene Fogelberg

Thursday February 4, 2016

4 pm PST   5 pm MST   6 pm CST   7 pm EST

We all struggle with how to get our story told; essentially we translate our experiences into words. Join us as Lene Fogelberg talks about the process of writing her memoir Beautiful Affliction which is now on the Wall Street Journal bestseller list.

Lene had a life and death story–as she was living it, she didn’t know the outcome. She was short of breath, but doctors in Sweden pronounced her healthy. Her book is the story of how she found someone to listen to her heart, and her story.

All her life Lene had been a writer, but the real challenge came when Lene decided to write her story—would it be in Swedish, her native tongue, or in English? Lene will discuss her journey with language, culture, and writing.

When we want to write a memoir, all of us struggle for permission, wondering if we can tell a story that others will relate to. Lene took classes and worked on her writing in both languages, , but winning a poetry prize encouraged her to think she might have a voice—and a story—that others would value.

As I wrote the book, I decided to be vulnerable, transparent. and write from my heart. I did not hold back and tried not to concern myself with how I would be perceived. I thought of the reader and what I wanted to tell her (my younger self…).

Lene and I will talk about these points:

  • Dare to matter. Recognize the importance of your story and your voice.
  • Recognize the strength that comes with your vulnerability.
  • Find the details that build your story so others can be in your world.
  • The challenge of multi-lingual writing
  • Keep trying to get your book out into the world—how Lene followed various publishing options, and why she chose She Writes Press over a traditional publishing deal.

 

Short bio:

Lene FogelbergLene Fogelberg is a Wall Street Journal bestselling author, an award-winning poet and double open-heart surgery survivor. Born in Sweden, she currently lives with her family in Malaysia, where she is working on a novel that takes place in Asia.

http://lenefogelberg.com

http://www.amazon.com/Beautiful-Affliction-Memoir-Surviving-Disease/dp/1631529854

 

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Don’t Let Anyone Stop You From Writing Your Memoir

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Leslie 2015January 14, 2016

4 pm PST   5 pm MST   6 pm CST   7 pm EST

 

Our Roundtable and NAMW podcast guest is Leslie Johansen Nack, author of Fourteen: A Daughter’s Memoir of Adventure, Sailing and Survival.

Leslie Nack always wanted to write, but life and work and being busy, not to mention the inner critic and needing to find “the right time,” always got in the way. Almost six years ago, Leslie shrugged all that aside and took on the project that had been tapping her on the shoulder, and in the heart, for so long. We will talk about her journey to write her story—which many of you will find parallels the journeys that most of us are on: finding ways to write about the secrets, the abuse, and the family of origin, giving ourselves permission to go “all the way” from a first draft, to writing classes, to publication.

Leslie and I will discuss:
• The need to write – a lifelong quest for the courage to write her story. If you’re hesitant to write your own story, there’s probably a reason. Listen to it and give it time to evolve.

• How she wrote the story of her traumatic childhood: sexual, physical and emotional abuse, all wrapped up in the glamour of sailing to French Polynesia

• Leslie says this about the process of writing her memoir: “There are no short cuts, no easier, softer way, and there’s no way around it. The easiest way to deal with the pain of childhood is gFourteen-front[1]oing through it again.”

• The reaction her family of origin had to her story, and how she managed to deal with that.

• Her publishing process with She Writes Press.

Leslie Johansen Nack graduated UCLA with a BA in English literature. She is a member of the National Association of Memoir Writers and San Diego Writers Ink. She lives in San Diego and has two children with her husband of twenty-five years.

Visit her website for pictures: http://www.lesliejohansennack.com/fourteen

 

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How to Write a Prize Winning Memoir

Azedeh Tabazadeh

Azedeh TabazadehRoundtable Discussion – Free to All

Date: December 3, 2015

Time: 4 Pm PST  5 PM MST  6 PM CST 7 PM EST

Expert: Azadeh Tabazadeh

“What you have done in this book is exactly what I would like for my patients to do—and that is to confront the truth,” my therapist told me after reading my memoir.

She was right! I escaped Iran when I was 17 years old and came to America with nothing other than a 6-month student visa and a steadfast determination to work hard in becoming a scientist—a profession of my childhood dreams. At age 45 I had a lot going for me. I was a professor of Geophysics at Stanford University and had worked for many years for NASA. My scientific discoveries were featured in Time, Washington post, San Francisco Chronicle and many other national and international newspapers, yet something profound was missing from my life. I felt a strong desire to make sense of my past, write about it, hand it to someone and say, “Here is what I went through. I hope you learn something from it.”

What helped me the most in writing my book was joining a memoir-writing class where I could share my stories in a safe environment. To my surprise, despite our different cultural backgrounds, we all had much in common when our lives were crafted into stories. I walked away from this experience feeling that my past had lost its power over me. Now, the truth, as I believed it, was written in black-and-white and I no longer felt ashamed of my past. Instead, understanding my past gave me the perspective I needed to become whole and feel at peace with myself.

Here are a few things that might help you in writing your memoir:

  • Join a writing group to write the first draft.
  • Rewriting, at least, for me was a lot of fun.
  • Be aware that your recollection of past events may be different from others.
  • Trust your own intuition.
  • Target a broad audience, so others may benefit from your experiences.

 Azadeh Tabazadeh is the author of The Sky Detective, a debut memoir about her childhood and adolescent years in Iran. Her story offers an eyewitness account of what life was like inside an Iranian household and on the streets of Tehran, before and after the 1979 Islamic Revolution and during the war with Iraq. Excerpts from her memoir have won several prestigious writing contests, including the East of Eden Award in 1998 and the San Francisco Writers Conference Grand Prize in 2012. Azadeh fled Iran in 1982, two years after the Iraq invasion of Iran, to pursue her dream of becoming a scientist. In 1994 she graduated with a doctoral degree in chemistry from UCLA. Since then, she has worked at NASA, taught at Stanford University, and has published over sixty scientific articles. Among her many accolades are a Presidential White House Science Award and a feature article in Time that details her personal life and scientific discoveries.

For author updates visit Azadeh at azadehtabazadeh.com or follow her on Facebook.

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