Upcoming Workshops and Classes

Publishing with a Purpose: Two NAMW Members Share Their Success Stories

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Date: December 12, 2014

Time: 11 AM PST 12 PM MST 1 PM CST 2 PM EST

Guest Speakers: Kathy Pooler and Martha Sarkissian

Topic: Publishing with a Purpose: Two NAMW Members Share Their Success Stories

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Two members of the National Association of Memoir Writers who have been part of the teleseminars, workshops, and discussions about writing and publishing memoir are joining us at this end of the year member teleseminar to talk about their path to publishing–the choices they made, and why, and why it was important to them to work so hard to get their books out into the world. This is the kind of story we all need to hear! Kathy Pooler, author of Ever Faithful to His Lead began her memoir in one of our workshops, and Martha Sarkissian, author of Living on  Fault, started her writing life thanks to a suggestion from her therapist, who thought that writing would help her heal. Along the way, both women discovered their voice, and the power of story to change lives–first their own!

 

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Ever Faithful to His Lead–My Journey Away From Emotional Abuse

How does a young woman from a stable, loving family make so many wise choices when it comes to career, but so many wrong choices when it comes to love?

She must make a decision—face her self-defeating patterns and move on or repeat her mistakes. Her life and the lives of her two children depend upon the choices she makes, and the chances she takes. The book offers readers insight into her poor decisions and how they can learn from her story. “I want to inspire hope and action for my readers who need to find their own inner strength,” Pooler explains.

Kathleen Pooler spent the first eighteen years of her life in a loving supportive family. The next twenty-five years were engulfed in the abyss of two abusive marriages. Pooler rescued herself and is now dedicated to helping other women (and men) do the same.

She hopes to help others find their inner strength through sharing her hard earned lessons in her new memoir.

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Living on Fault is a cross-cultural love story that begins when social and sexual mores restricted women’s lives and choices. We follow the author as she copes with her alcoholic father, the crib-death of her baby, and with the mental illness of her son, at a time when the psychiatric world believed that mothers cause schizophrenia. Finally, we travel with the writer when she pushes aside superstitions, guilt and fear from the past and creates a life of joy in the present.

About the Author:

Martha Sarkissian began writer as a third grader splashing blobs of ink from a dip pen on her stories and poems. Her teenage dream was, “To go to Paris and be a writer.” Instead she married Hrant Harold Sarkissian in June 1947, the same month she graduated from Berkeley. She had five babies, and taught school until she was 80. As teacher, she was director of the Learning Center, where she worked equally with the highly talented and learning disabled. Through years crowded with activities, she managed to write children’s stories, articles, poems and novels. In her later years, she came to understand and delight in the unique capacity of the aging brain to grow. At age 88, having finished her memoir, Living on a Fault, she teaches a writing class and is working on the next project, a children’s novel.

If you are a member, log-in to get the call information or listen to the recording. If you are not a member, join today to get full membership benefits.

Breaking Silence Teleconference – Writing the Truth in Memoir

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Friday November 14, 2014

10 AM-4 PM PST

 

magic bookIt’s time to find your voice and break your silence — and write the memoir you want to write! During this day long teleconference, we will be addressing how shame can help to silence our voice. We call the voice that creates writer’s block the ”Inner Critic,” but at the core of the Inner Critic is  doubt and often it’s shame. Please join these amazing women who are willing to share their stories of shame, doubt, and how they have broken through and helped others find their voice. I’m so pleased to have with me at this conference Sue William Silverman, Amy Ferris, Amy Friedman and Brooke Warner.

The talented and courageous presenters of this conference have worked with layers of shame to be a champion of writing the truth in their writing, teaching, and publishing. They have helped many writers find their voices and get their unique and important stories of love, suffering, courage, and trauma out into the world.

Writers need to grow beyond and write past the silencing they have received throughout their lives, a silencing that keeps us from writing our stories, from telling our truths. During this daylong event, the presenters will talk about how shame silences us, and offer you permission to write the stories you have hidden, run away from, and/or denied—to yourself first, and family and friends.

The intent of this conference is to encourage writers to be vulnerable and to take their power back, not to be “small” as Brene Brown, author of Daring Greatly, says. It’s important to find our voices and our courage to reveal, at first to ourselves, then to the larger world, the truths of our lives. At this conference, we want to use terms like “shame” in a forward-thinking way, instead of hiding it the way society encourages, as Amy Ferris, one of our presenters, has worked to do. We’re putting it on the table and looking at it head on, naming it—which is always the first step in healing and change.

We will discuss the problems we face as people who have been silenced, and how to dare to break through to a new level of Being, voice, and writing.

Reserve Your Spot Today

bys-bonusesNon-members $59 $49. Add to Cart

NAMW members $49 $39.  Add to Cart

After the conference, a recording will be sent to those who purchase.

PLUS if you register now, you will receive two special bonuses “What Made The Glass Castle a Bestseller?” and “Breaking Your Silence – Writing your Truth in Memoir” for FREE. – To be delivered the week of the conference.

 

Sue Silverman

10 am-11 am PST 11 am-12 pm MST 12 pm-1 pm CST 2 pm-3-pm EST

Confessional and (Finally) Proud of It
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In this hour, I will discuss the importance of all of our voices. How do we overcome shame and learn to be proud of our stories? How do we discover the courage to tell family secrets…or any secret that remains in darkness? As the author of three memoirs, I’ve learned that each one required me to address a different aspect of the shame inherent in speaking one’s truth. In my first memoir, Because I Remember Terror, Father, I Remember You, I struggled with the shame of revealing such a personal family secret as incest. In Love Sick: One Woman’s Journey through Sexual Addiction, I struggled with the revelations of disclosing secrets about my own sexuality. Then, in The Pat Boone Fan Club: My Life as a White Anglo-Saxon Jew, I worried how my own tribe, fellow Jews, would react to a memoir of a Jewish girl who grew up wanting to be Christian. I understand the challenges that every essay, story or memoir presents and encourage a conversation about these issues. I believe there are powerful reasons for all of us to tell our stories anyway.
Why?
• We find redemption through understanding the past
• We find redemption through the organizing principles of writing
• We find redemption through the life force
• We find redemption through helping others to heal
• We find redemption through confession

Sue William Silverman’s new memoir, The Pat Boone Fan Club: My Life as a White Anglo-Saxon Jew, is published with the University of Nebraska Press as part of their American Lives Series (series editor Tobias Wolff). Her two other memoirs are Love Sick: One Woman’s Journey through Sexual Addiction a Lifetime television movie, and Because I Remember Terror, Father, I Remember You, which won the Association of Writers and Writing Programs award in creative nonfiction. Her craft book, Fearless Confessions: A Writer’s Guide to Memoir, won Honorable Mention in ForeWord Reviews’ book-of-the-year award. As a professional speaker, Sue has appeared on such shows as The View, Anderson Cooper 360, and CNN-Headline News. She teaches in the MFA in Writing Program at Vermont College of Fine Arts. Please visit www.SueWilliamSilverman.com.

Amy Ferris

11:15 am-12:15 pm PST 12:15-1:15 pm MST  1:15-2:15 pm CST   2:15-3:15-pm EST

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Awakening to your greatness

Amy Ferris loves inspiring people to write/right their lives. her passion is for everyone to awaken to their greatness. in order to awaken to our greatness, we must be able to look shame and fear and guilt and our deepest uglies in the eye and say, no more. writing those stories, sharing those stories, releasing those stories are so extraordinarily powerful. because once you share them tell them, release them they no longer hold you hostage. this is about transforming all of our scars into stardust, all our flaws & imperfections into glitter, and breaking-through the i am not enough syndrome.

You will learn:
1) that you do in fact have a story that will set you free
2) that you don’t need to be a writer to tell or share your story
3) that you are not alone in your shame, guilt, fear, worry, sadness.
4) that the smallest detail can become an entire book
5) writing/righting your truth takes courage, and courage comes from standing up and saying: this is me, and i am enough

Amy Ferris is an author, screenwriter, essayist, playwright and editor. her memoir, marrying george clooney, confessions from a midlife crisis (seal press) was adapted in an off-broadway play in 2012. she has written films (mr. wonderful, anthony minghella, director and funny valentines, julie dash, director), tv, and has contributed to numerous anthologies, including the one she co-edited, dancing at the shame prom (seal press). she was guest editor-in-chief for two magazine, glossies, where she created the annual all women’s issue. amy lives in pennsylvania with her husband and two cats. she is very content on most days.

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12:30-1:30 pm PST  1:30-2:30 pm MST  2:30-3:30 pm CST   3:30-4:30pm EST

Breaking Open: The Heart of Writing Memoir—Courage and Permission to Write Your Truth

Linda Joy Myers

We have all been silenced in various ways: family rules to not air the family laundry, society’s rules to be quiet unless you have something nice to say, the rules to be “good” which means to be quiet and docile. The rules to keep the secrets in the family or risk losing their approval.

In my work with writers, I hear themes that we call the Inner Critic: “I can’t write that,” they whisper. Or “no one else knows all these things in my memoir—what will happen when they read this?” They feel embarrassed and ashamed of their story and often who they are, the life they lived. Some writers get physical symptoms from digging deep in their memories—headaches, heartaches as they drop into the mind and body of who they were in the past. It’s well known that writing helps to heal, thanks to the studies by Dr. James Pennebaker, but the act of writing for each of us is a moment to moment act of courage, an act of encounter that can free you from your silence.

Coeur, meaning heart, is the root of the word courage, and it’s our heart, our deepest truth that we must write from. Readers want to know who you are in your memoir, and to do that you need to be authentic, to draw from your deepest truths.

In this hour, we will explore what it takes to break open, to write past shame and silence and create a memoir that is heartful and speaks universally to your readers.

We will discuss:
• How to recognize the barriers that silence you
• The studies about how writing heals body and mind
• How “the rules” of silencing are imbedded in our family and social history
• How we learn shame, and how we heal it
• Techniques to help you fully encounter your memoir and write freely

Linda Joy Myers is president and founder of the National Association of Memoir Writers and a therapist for 35 years. Her memoir Don’t Call Me Mother—A Daughter’s Journey from Abandonment to Forgiveness is a finalist in the ForeWord Book of the Year Award, a finalist in the IndieExcellence Awards and received Honorable Mention in the New York Book Awards. She’s also the author of three books on memoir writing: The Power of Memoir—How to Write Your Healing Story, Journey of Memoir, and Becoming Whole. Linda co-edited the anthology The Times They Were A’Changing—Women Remember the 60s & 70s, a ForeWord Review Book of the Year finalist. Her fiction, non-fiction, and memoir pieces have been published in literary journals and online. She writes for the Huffington Post, and co-teaches the program Write Your Memoir in Six Months. Linda is a speaker about memoir, healing, and the power of writing the truth, and offers editing, coaching, and manuscript evaluation for writers. Blog: memoriesandmemoirs.com

 

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1:45-2:45 pm PST    2:45-3:45 pm  MST    3:45-4:45 pm   CST   4:45-5:45pm EST  

Writing Your Memoir: After the Sorrow and Anger

Amy Friedman
Is it possible to get over your desire to scream at certain people whose experiences have deeply hurt you? As a creative writing teacher for over 25 years, focusing on memoir and personal essay for the past 15, I have encouraged writers to overcome their fears and doubts; I’ve encouraged them to slip out of the shadows in their work, to be fearless. I’ve always believed, and have taught my students, that our deepest shame and doubt often turns out to be our greatest strength, and that our secrets can make for powerful stories that resonate powerfully with readers. So when I hit the wall as I was writing my third memoir, Desperado’s Wife, although I was stumped for a long time, I also knew I was onto something.

The story of my marriage to a man I met while he was serving a life sentence in prison, and in the decade-plus during which I fought, coped with, and survived the prison system, I came to realize a number of things: I had a desire to prove something to all those naysayers; I longed to fight back against those who had fired me from jobs, castigated me and my family; I wanted to scream at those who had turned their backs on us. But a scream never encourages listening, as it is seldom beautiful or inspiring to hear (or to read). To write a book that would resonate with others, I had to learn what was beneath that scream, to uncover what secrets I had buried under the fury. Desperado’s Wife took me a decade to write, and in that decade I learned invaluable lessons for uncovering our buried secrets, lessons I’ll share during this hour.

We will discuss:
• Paths to uncovering your subconscious agendas and how they hobble you
• How to distance yourself from fury and sorrow without silencing your deepest truths
• The power of (wise) readers as allies
• What to do about those whose opinions you fear
• How others’ stories can move you beyond (and beneath) your own doubt and shame

Amy Friedman is an author, editor, ghostwriter and creative writing teacher whose most recent books include Desperado’s Wife: A Memoir, a book that led to her appearance on the Katie Couric show and ultimately to her co-creating, with her husband Dennis Danziger, the nonprofit POPS the club (www.popstheclub.com), for high school students whose lives have been touched by prison. Desperado’s Wife is currently being developed as a television series, and Amy’s most recent book, One Souffle at a Time: A Memoir of Food and France, co-authored with Anne Willan, will be released in paperback in 2014. Amy’s articles, essays and stories have appeared in magazines, newspapers and numerous anthologies, and since 1992 she has written Tell Me a Story, a weekly story for children syndicated by Universal Press Syndicate that has spawned three books and three award winning CDs. Amy teaches memoir at UCLA Extension, The Skirball Cultural Arts Center, Idyllwild School of the Arts and in private workshops. For more see her website www.amyfriedman.net.

 

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3-4 pm PST  4-5 pm MST   5-6pm CST   6-7 pm EST

Writing Shame and Trauma for Publication—How to Write in the Space between What Happened and What People Can Handle

Brooke Warner

In my fourteen years in the publishing industry—eight of those as an Executive Editor at Seal Press, a women’s press that makes it a point to publish women’s issues, including works of trauma—I was honored to have had the opportunity to work with many courageous authors who risked a lot to tell their truths. It’s something you have to weather and brave; yet it feels extra hard when you’re baring your soul about issues that you’ve long kept secret, issues that took years to see the light of day.

Writing shame and trauma for publication requires some distance on the part of the writer. Many aspiring writers believe that the more outrageous their story is, the more likely it is to be published. But this is not true. I call this the “Trauma Olympics,” and I will talk about why trying to trump someone else’s trauma never makes for good writing. What matters most is your authenticity and willingness to “walk the radical edge,” as David Whyte so eloquently talks about. Where writing trauma and shame are concerned, you may experience internal discomfort, mental discord, and even physical symptoms. This is common. But unfortunately, the publishing industry doesn’t care.
If you want to publish, you have to dig deep, but you can’t be self-pitying; you have to show all, without being too graphic; you have to show the underbelly of what happened, yet remain somewhat dispassionate.

So how the hell does anyone actually do this? In this hour I’ll share successful memoirs that have done trauma and shame well, and why they’ve succeeded. We’ll also cover how to be self-aware enough in your own writing to appeal to an audience, and how to know if you’re ready for publication, and what to do if it turns out you’re not (hint: it doesn’t mean you stop writing).

In this hour you will learn:
• How to write authentically, yet keep the reader in mind
• How to walk the “radical edge”
• How to expose your deepest truths yet avoid the “Trauma Olympics”
• How successful memoirists expose their trauma and shame
• Techniques for self-awareness as you prepare for publication

Brooke Warner is publisher of She Writes Press, president of Warner Coaching Inc., and author of What’s Your Book? and How to Sell Your Memoir. Brooke’s expertise is in traditional and new publishing, and she is an equal advocate for publishing with a traditional house and self-publishing. She sits on the board of the Independent Book Publishers Association (IBPA) and the National Association of Memoir Writers (NAMW). Her website was selected by The Write Life as one of the Top 100 Best Websites for Writers in 2014. She lives and works in Berkeley, California.

Reserve Your Spot Today

bys-bonusesNon-members $59 $49. Add to Cart

NAMW members $49 $39.  Add to Cart

After the conference, a recording will be sent to those who purchase.

After you sign up you will receive the conference call-in instructions.

PLUS if you register now, you will receive two special bonuses “What Made The Glass Castle a Bestseller?” and “Breaking Your Silence – Writing your Truth in Memoir” for FREE. – To be delivered the week of the conference.

Public Speaking for Writers and Other Introverts | Skills Memoir Writers Need

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Betsy's PR Shot,_edited-1Date: October 24, 2014
Time: 11 am PDT 12 pm MDT 1 pm CDT 2 pm EDT
Expert: Betsy Graziani Fasbinder
Topic: Public Speaking for Writers and Other Introverts: Simple Mindshifts to Raise Your Confidence and Gather Devoted Fans

We’re so pleased to offer this special webinar to help you break out of your shyness and learn to present your new memoir to the world in a professional and confident manner. The member webinar this month is Public Speaking for Writers and Other Introverts: Simple Mindshifts to Raise Your Confidence and Gather Devoted Fans with Betsy Graziani Fasbinder, an experienced author coach, writer, and prize winning author.

Writers are natural storytellers, of course. While they’re comfortable conveying their stories on the page, and often with other people in their familiar circles, the idea of getting up in front of a roomful of onlookers to talk about their story or themselves can feel daunting.

Authors spend a lot of time, energy, and money building their platforms for promoting their books, but they often forget about what the platform is there to support: themselves. Being able to speak comfortably to a listening audience whether it’s at a book launch, a reading, a media interview, or a networking event is perhaps the most crucial element of the writer’s platform.

This teleseminar is meant to help writers to learn a few mind-shifts and simple skills to instantly boost their confidence and increase their effectiveness when speaking in public—whether it’s to an audience of five or five hundred. Readers (and potential readers) come to book events to connect with authors. When they’re able to connect with you, these readers become not only buyers, but super-fans who help to sell your books.

Betsy helps clients to be at their at their natural and most comfortable best in front of an audience by helping them to see public speaking not as a “gift” but as a set of learnable skills and to develop confidence and presence.

In this webinar, you will:

• Gather five mental shifts to instantly boost your confidence about public speaking
• Acquire simple tips that can help you connect with listeners
• Gain skills that can help you to be at your natural best in formal presentations, book launches, media interviews, and casual encounters.

If you are a member, log-in to listen to the recording.

Bio:

As a life-long writer, a psychotherapist for over two decades, and trainer of communications skills, Betsy Graziani Fasbinder’s professional life is about communicating ideas and matters of the heart with clarity and passion.

She coaches writers (and other introverts) to become dynamic, engaging public speakers, and has taught clients in Fortune 500 Companies, politicians, entertainers, business leaders, and authors internationally. Betsy’s debut novel, Fire & Water, published by She Writes Press, was released in 2013. It received a Silver Medal in the Wishing Shelf Book Award, an honorable mention in the New York and Los Angeles Book Festivals, and was released as an audiobook in 2014. Several of Betsy’s memoir pieces have been produced as Readers’ Theater in Nevada City, CA. Betsy lives in Marin County with her husband, and Edgar, her salt-and-pepper doodle.

THE BIG DECISION: MEMOIR OR FICTION?

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Date: October 16, 2014
Time: 4 PM PDT 5 PM MDT 6 PM CDT 7 PM EDT

At this free Roundtable Teleseminar, we’re going to address a subject that memoir writers struggle with: whether to write their story as a memoir—everything is true!—or as autobiographical fiction—I made it up!

Many memoir writers struggle with this decision, so we’re pleased to present Mary Gottschalk and Carol Bodensteiner, who have gone from a corporate life to writing and publishing memoirs and fiction. They will discuss their often-parallel paths from business writing to creative writing, including their perspective on the differences between memoir and fiction.

Topics will include:

• Memoir vs. Fiction — choosing your genre
• Memoir as a “training tool”
• Getting past the facts
• Factual accuracy vs. spiritual / emotional truth
• The value of a writing group/partner
• Building the writer’s toolkit

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Mary Gottschalk Bio

Mary has made a career out of changing careers. She spent nearly thirty years in the financial markets, working with Fortune 500 corporations in the United States, New Zealand, Australia, Central America, and Europe. She dropped out in the mid-1980’s to embark on the multi-year sailing voyage that is the subject of her memoir, Sailing Down the Moonbeam. The key message of her memoir is that you grow the most when you step outside of your comfort zone.

Continuing to work with that theme, Mary published her first novel, A Fitting Place, in May, 2014. She blogs regularly on the experience of being outside your comfort zone. She is also a freelance writer and professional editor.

 

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Carol Bodensteiner Bio

Carol finds inspiration in the places, people, culture and history of the Midwest. After a successful career in public relations consulting, she turned to creative writing. Carol’s childhood on a family farm in the middle of the United States in the middle of the 20th century provided grist for her memoir, Growing Up Country: Memories of an Iowa Farm Girl. Having stepped 50 years back in history with her memoir, writing her debut novel Go Away Home set in Iowa during WWI was a logical next step. Carol blogs about writing, her prairie, gardening, and whatever in life interests her at the moment. Her essays have been included in a number of anthologies.

Free Memoir Webinar: What Made Angela’s Ashes a Bestseller?

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Tuesday: September 30

  • 4:00PM – 5:00PM Pacific

  • 5:00PM – 6:00PM Mountain
  • 6:00PM – 7:00PM Central

  • 7:00PM – 8:00PM Eastern

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To purchase the 4 week class click here.

Angela’s Ashes… you know, it’s the Irish story, the “miserable Irish childhood” that Frank McCourt would talk about with tongue in cheek–and how we miss you Frank! For those of us who fell in love with this book, we know that Angela’s Ashes, the first of his two memoirs–they were really one book for a while–is beloved by so many people, a book that we laugh with and cry with, and read over and over again. And oh, we see the movie too!

Brooke Warner and I have been teaching New York Times Best Sellers–Wild, Eat, Pray, Love, and The Glass Castle for the last year, and it was time, we decided, to teach a memoir by a male writer. We sent out a survey and Angela’s Ashes won by a landslide.

As memoir coaches, we had to ask some pithy questions for this Free webinar about McCourt’s Pulitzer prize winning book:

Why is Frank McCourt’s Angela’s Ashes one of the most beloved memoirs of all times?

How did McCourt manage to write about the horrors of his upbringing while still delivering a universal message?

What can we learn from his story that will help us with our own memoir in progress?

The art of balancing his heartbreaking story with being able to deliver to all of us something valuable is part of what we will be examining during this hour-long webinar. Every memoir strives to do this, so it is important to learn how the best memoir writers pull it off to great acclaim. Not all of us may write a best seller–though we can strive to create  a book that is that good and with such a universal message–but we all can learn the techniques that help us to create the very best memoir we can write. Please join us for an exploration of Angela’s Ashes, and discover new insights about your memoir writing!

 

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